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Without constant activity and improvement,
the threats of life will soon overwhelm the values
~Author Unknown~
 
Everything in life needs to be maintained and/or improved,
whether that be relationships, health, income or your career.
If you are not going forward, you are falling back.

Enjoy the Tips

~Norman~

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Learning from Failure
 
"Remember!  What is defeat? 
Nothing but education;
nothing but the first step to something better."
~Wendall Phillips
 
One of the great benefits of defeat is that it shows you
in a dramatic fashion what you don't want and very
dramatically motivates you towards a way out of pain.

 ~Norman

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The Recipe for Depression
 
"The way to be depressed and stay depressed
is to constantly focus on yourself."
~Author Unknown
 
Simply put, get passionate about something outside yourself that moves you
and pulls your attention.  I have still never met a depressed person with a quest.
~Norman

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Take the Heat off Yourself
 
"When you focus on serving, there is no fear in you."
~Arun Chadee

 
This is a power packed little sentence that pretty much says if you want to have less performance anxiety, stop thinking of how well you are performing and place your focus on the quality of the service you are providing and how it will benefit others.  So if you mess up, you are not overly concerned with yourself but with the quality of what you were offering. 
This really works!
 
~ Norman

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Achievement
 
"Achievement is Talent and Preparation."
~Malcolm Gladwell
 
I once read that talent is no substitution for preparation and preparation is no substitute for talent.  After years spent as a
professional musician, it became obvious to me after auditioning many singers and instrumentalists that there were three categories of candidates.  Those with natural talent but no training (preparation).  Secondly, those with training but lacking natural ability.  And lastly, those that seemed to be both gifted and trained.  Across the board, the gifted and trained have always turned out to be above and beyond the most outstanding musicians. 
Try to use both factors in your life when choosing either career paths or future challenges.
~Norman

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Who's in Charge
 
"Something will master and something will serve. 
Either you run the day or the day runs you."
~Author Unknown
 
If you study successful or happy people you will simply find that a bigger percentage of their day is what they have designed or planned ahead of time.  Conversely, if you study unhappy people, not coincidentally, you will discover that more of their day consists of their reaction to what has been directed by someone outside of themselves.  You can make a big impact on your life once
you realize and take advantage of this principle.
~Norman

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Keep Up, Keep Up, Keep Up
Without constant activity and improvement,
the threats of life will soon overwhelm the values
~Author Unknown~
 
Everything in life needs to be maintained and/or improved, whether that be relationships, health, income or your career.If you are not going forward, you are falling back.
~Norman~

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Finish on Paper
 
"Never begin the day until it is finished on paper."
~Author Unknown
 
Stephen Covey, author of all of the Seven Habits booksrefers to this idea in Habits two and three.  Habit two states...begin with the end in mind.  In other words, whenever possible, make a plan on paper the way a carpenter starts with a blueprint.  Habit three states...proceed with making first things first.  This means after making the plan, actually enact it.In my work, I have noticed that far too many people sort of "wing it" through life.  When in fact it is usually much more fruitful to build a plan then improvise as you go
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~Norman

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Increase Your Value
 
"People are often interested in how to make more money. 
The answer is to become an above average person."
~Jim Rohn
 
The fact of the matter is, your income is intimately related to the amount of value that you bring to the marketplace.  For the most part, if you want a raise, become more valuable at whatever it is you do.
~Norman

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Stick Your Neck Out
 
If you are not willing to risk the unusual,
you will have to settle for the ordinary.
   
Jim Rohn
 
If you arbitrarily gathered 100 people randomly and proceeded
to split them into two groups, those that seem successful and those that don't, you would find one very interesting difference between the two groups.  The unsuccessful people would tend to be content to live a life that is familiar and safe.  The other group would be filled with "calculated risk takers".  Growth demands that you enter worlds that are literally unknown.  Make sure you are in the latter group.
~Norman

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Work and Play
 
"Work and play are not opposites.  Your job can be fun."
~Unknown author

 
I have "worked" sixty plus hours a week for most of my career as a therapist and a musician.  Time has always seemed to fly by.  Seemingly because a great percentage of what I do, I do with laughter and also due to the natural enjoyment and rush I get from being with people.  The line between work and play has always been vague, thereby allowing me to earn a living in a mostly enjoyable fashion.  Read the following article please and then brainstorm for the amount
of ways that you could have a good time doing your job.
~Norman
http://www.psychologytoday.com/collections/201202/play-time/yes-your-job-can-be-fun

 
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Do Great Things
 
The following is a quote from
Psychology Today on today's popular TV shows.
"There has been a significant increase in the importance of fame."

 
 
As a parent, rather than teach our children to be great, we should probably teach them to do great things.  If not, we are teaching function-less fame.
~Norman

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You Choose - A or B?
 
"We must all suffer one of two pains. 
Pain of discipline or pain of regret."
~Jim Rohn
 
Another way to put it is life is difficult.  That is a fact you can't escape.  Self discipline is certainly arduous but once mastered, a whole lot less painful than the pains of regret.  Many people just run into the problem of trying to avoid all difficulties of life by taking the easy way out. 

Subsequently, the negative consequences are more difficult to endure.
~Norman

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How to Build Trust
 
"The quickest way to build trust:
Make a promise and keep it.
Don't overpromise and don't underdeliver.
Only say what your willing to do."
~Stephen Covey
 
Most of us realize that making promises to others and keeping those promises certainly enhances the trust they have in us.  Many people don't realize that promises made to ourselves kept regularly, strengthen ones faith and confidence in oneself.  Similarly, broken promises to yourself weaken your confidence and undermine your security.
~Norman

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The Gift of Your Time
 
"Social events are an important part of a happy childhood.
Gifts, like toys and games, are not."
Krystine I. Batch
To see full article -
http://t.co/q7kSYAhA -- Psychology Today

 My daughter is now 30 years old, grown and married.  Her relationships with her parents, aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents are visibly sacred.  The main reason is the thousands of hours we have spent laughing and enjoying each others company...all the toys she received, didn't hurt either.
~Norman

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What MUST You Have?
 
"Humans have the remarkable ability to get exactly what they must have. 
But there is a difference between a 'must' and a 'want' "
~Jim Rohn
 
This quote probably explains why most people magically live neither beneath nor above the means they were exposed to during their childhood.  In other words, what we have experienced as our day to day is usually a standard that we normally do not fall beneath.  There's an invisible level of what we must have working that keeps us from falling below our history or rising above it.  Solution: reclarify
your lists of musts and if this theory is correct, and I believe it is,
you will start gravitating towards the bar set at new heights.
~Norman

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Do Something

"Action is the antidote to despair"
~Joan Baez
 
This is just another way to put the theme that I have developed to be the motto for the rest of my career.  "Passion heals all of life's ills."  Or another way to put it, "I have never met a depressed person with a quest".  Find something - an ideal, a cause, or an idea that you're just
crazy about and get going trying to get there.

~Norman

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A Brand New Start
 
"Whatever your past has been...your future is spotless."
~Unknown
 
I've probably said this before but this may be my favorite quote of all time.  Envisioning, planning and managing a new future is always possible for anyone regardless of who you are or what your past has been.
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~Norman

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Don't Play it Too Safe
 
"A ship is safe in the harbour,
but that's not what ships are for."
~William Shedd

 
Don't play it too safe.  Simply put, anything worth doing takes an element of risk.
As long as that risk is calculated and reasonably safe, and not foolhardy....then GO FOR IT!
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~Norman

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Success
 
“Success is nothing more than a
 few simple disciplines practiced very day.”
~Jim Rohn
 
Many people approach success as if it’s a lottery ticket, looking for that
one big action that pays off big and makes them successful or rich forever. 
I learned years ago that success happens by choosing repeatable habits
that over time play out to a very solid success in your area of choice. 
True health happens through rituals of good nutrition & good exercise…over time. 
Good relationships happen by practicing kindness and empathy…over time. 
Life ain’t no lottery game.
~Norman

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Your Best Self
Whenever possible, ask yourself,
"How would the person that I would like to become
do that which I am about to do?"
~Source Unknown
 
This is a great technique of imagining your version
of
the "ideal you" acting in a way that is of the highest quality. 
This technique can be used in virtually all the challenges that life presents to you.

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~Norman

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Losing's Lessons
"Losing is a learning experience.  It teaches you humility. 
It teaches you to work harder.  It is a powerful motivator."
~Yogi Berra
 
Once upon a time, I lost something very near and dear to me by taking
it lightly and subsequently being unprepared.  The lesson shattered me. 
I haven't been unprepared for anything since.
~Norman

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Just Don't Look Down
"Obstacles are those frightening things that become visible
when we take our eyes off our goals."
~Henry Ford

 
Try to think about something you have done in your life that
had many pitfalls, trials and errors, and the very hard work
that stood in the way before you reached the "finish line". 
You wonder sometimes if you would have actually proceeded
with that goal if you knew how hard the road would be to get there

The destination was so important and you felt so passionate about
reaching it, that you probably paid very little attention to all of the obstacles. 
If the goal is inspirational enough, the obstacles become incidental.
 
~Norman

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Stick Your Neck Out
"Behold the turtle. 
He makes progress only when he sticks his neck out."
~James B. Conant
 
It has occurred to me that any progress that I have made in my life has always followed a time I had to try something that I had never done before.  It has always been scary, most importantly because I had no idea what the outcome would be.  If I had avoided all these anxiety inducing moments of my life, I would be a completely different person.  Real progress seems to require the courage to try something you have never tried before.

 
~Norman

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Avoid Disappointment
 
"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed
by the things you didn't do than by the things you did."
~Mark Twain
 
I once read that there were two kinds of sins in the world.  Sins of commission
and sins of omission.  We all tend to focus on the things that we actively
have done wrong that we regret but according to this quote, we should
spend more time making sure that we take advantage of opportunities
to grow or to help others.  Those things that we haven't done are
hidden but insidiously reveal themselves as time goes by.
 
~Norman

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Be Great or Do Great Things
 
"Are you living your life in pursuit of
success or significance?"
~Jim Rohn
 
I love this question! 
The Kardashians, at least by monetary standards,
are wildly successful.  But significance, not so much.
As you ponder your own life, ask this question of yourself.
 
~Norman

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Don't Worry
 
"The future depends on what we do in the present."
 
To make bread you need
to know the exact ingredients and how long to bake them. 
You also know that if you follow the instructions exactly, you don't have to worry...
you get bread!  Not pizza, not scrambled eggs, BREAD!
 
A lot of things we worry about can be cured by learning the preventative recipes.
 If you eat certain things, exercise, and for the most part live a life based
on principals, the end product is a happy, healthy life.
 
~Norman

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